Survivor’s Story

Having lost her own mother to breast cancer at a very young age, my mom was diligent, if not militant, about getting a mammogram EVERY year.

A couple of years ago, she noticed a little indent in her breast when she raised her arms.  She immediately went to her doctor, who did a manual breast exam.  He said there’s something there, but it doesn’t feel bad, and that she shouldn’t worry.  He then sent her to get a mammogram and an ultrasound.  The radiologist also clearly saw something there, but again, he didn’t think it looked bad.  The doctors did a needle biopsy which came back negative.  She got the all clear.  As a final precaution, the doctor decided that regardless of what it was, that it shouldn’t be there, so he performed a lumpectomy.

When my mom came back to the doctor’s office to have the stitches removed and discuss the findings about the lump, her life turned upside down.  I clearly remember receiving that phone call and not being able to do anything, paralyzed by the fear of losing my mom.

My mom, however, was not paralyzed.  She faced her diagnosis head on and showed me just how strong of a woman she truly is.

Mom went through five months of chemotherapy, from summer until the week of Christmas.  She had a double mastectomy in late winter.  At the time, her doctor told her that she could just have one breast removed and a few lymph nodes, but she decided to have both breasts removed.  After the surgery, we found out that the cancer had already spread to her other breast, as well as her lymph nodes.  After the surgery and before she even had a chance to heal completely, Mom started radiation.  Every day for five weeks, my mom endured the treatment, which left her body the color of a tomato and covered in blisters.

And now, she is a Survivor.  She lost weight, she lost hair, and she lost her physical strength.  But throughout this terrible journey, she never lost her spirit.  My mom is an inspiration and I am proud to walk in her honor.

But I can’t walk without your help.  Please consider making a donation to my Avon Walk for Breast Cancer fundraising campaign!  You can make the difference for someone today.

A weekend in the life

Have I mentioned how much I LOVE living in Napa?

Jason and I had nothing planned this past weekend until last Wednesday, when I was over at Ellyn and Larry’s house.  I had stolen Papa’s crossword puzzle to take a look at my column for the week (I don’t actually have a subscription to the Register), and I noticed an advertisement at the bottom of the page for a Beatles cover band playing at the Lincoln Theater.  I booked two terrible tickets (it was almost sold out) and jumped on OpenTable, one of my favorite apps, to find a good “date night” restaurant to hit up before the show.

Here’s where Napa gets awesome–there were TONS of AMAZING restaurants available.  Impressive Italian?  Fabulous French?  Tasty Thai?  Done and done.  I took a breath.  What would it be?  I decided to try something new–a place that I had never been, which Michael Bauer panned, and which “real” Napa people don’t eat.  The ever elusive tourist trap known as Brix.

Sign number one: when we arrived, two women *fell* into the women’s room, drunk off their asses and laughing hysterically at something.  I like to think they were laughing at something classy, but I’m pretty sure they were laughing at their newly acquired STDs.  Just saying.

Sign number two: We sit, we wait.  We find out what the specials are and I decide to get the special (which, incidentally, I rarely do).  It was a steak.  The steak came out waaaay late and about 15 full minutes later the sides came out.

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It was fine.  That’s all.  I enjoyed it with a 1998 (kind of a late vintage?) Frias Family Vineyards cab.  The dessert was good.  The table of drunk bachelorettes next to us?  Less than awesome.  And louder than a ShamWow commercial.  I was sitting next to a faux french door and at some point one of them came up behind me and tried to open the door to go outside and have a cigarette.  It was comical.  She never got it open and walked off confused.

I learned something from the experience, other than I should never eat at Brix.  I learned that there are certain places in Napa that only exist because Napa is a tourist destination.  There are gems out here that only I get to know about it and it’s up to me to stick with those cream of the crop kind of places.

And speaking of elitism, we had Sunday brunch at the Fremont Diner.  If you’ve seen my “bests” page, you know I love this place more than dogs love people food.  I ordered the ricotta pancakes, Jason added a sausage biscuit and I was in heaven:

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After a lovely and delicious brunch we chatted about the upcoming wedding.  I realized that I need to get used to being a Mrs. and figure out that whole new name thing.  I doodled my new name on a napkin.  Note Jason’s addition of “Mary Chiarello.”

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It’s Miller Time!

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Hudson David Miller (finally) joined us on March 1, 2011, at 12:29am, weighing in at 8 pounds, 5 ounces. Mother and family are delighted to report that labor was very quick and uneventful–although it gave me completely unrealistic expectations about giving birth.

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Baby Miller Countdown

Hillary, my best bud from high school, is having a baby any day now!

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Jason and I took her and hubby Joel out to lunch yesterday to celebrate her birthday, all the while making her walk and eat spicy foods and such to trigger Baby Miller’s birth day.

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She was having contractions every five minutes for several hours, but it turned out to be a false alarm.  Anyone have any suggestions for moving the process along?

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When in Rome

In a previous life I kept a blog.  Over about a six year course it covered the kind of things you would imagine a young women in her early twenties would find fascinating.  After I took the bar exam, the blog moved to a dusty shelf and I stopped writing completely.  As of today, that hiatus is over.

The topics will change constantly, because that’s just how life works.  I am often offended by people’s stupidity, so there will be posts containing a considerable amount of “ventilation.”  Three years and 20lbs after I moved to Napa, I can say that I truly appreciate good food and fine wine, so there will be a fair amount of restaurant reviews around here.  I keep my ear to the ground, so there may be a few gossipy political/business/legal things around here as well.  I can’t help myself sometimes.

And I like to take pictures.  You’ll find them here.

Make yourself comfortable.  The garbage man comes on Thursdays, the bills get paid at the beginning of the month, and don’t forget to let the dog out.